Love Vs. Infatuation

What is the elusive thing called "LOVE" that everyone so desperately needs? Sometimes, we sort of like this girl because she is 'beautiful'? Or the girl likes him because he is 'handsome'? But this kind of "Cinderella Syndrome" when the girl is waiting on her Prince Charming is not real love. It is better know as "INFATUATION", and there is a vast difference between it and real love.

The discussion below tackled the vast difference between LOVE and INFATUATION:

Love vs. Infatuation

First, let's define Infatuation! What is infatuation? As per definition, infatuation is a feeling; Real love involves a commitment also. Infatuation is just 'love of emotion;. Only the emotions are affected in infatuation, but in real love both the Emotions and Will are involved. Next, a person "fall into" infatuation, but "Grows into" real love. Let's site an example, have you ever seen a girl who was so beautiful that you thought you'd faint? This is infatuation! It is based totally on physical attraction; often you don't know much in-depth about the person you so-called love. Thus, infatuation is mostly biological!

Also remember; for guys, never tell a woman you love her, unless you are willing to marry her. Then, infatuation is basically selfish where real love is basically selfless. Infatuation is more interested in satisfying yourself and your "feelings" than it is in the other person.

Real love is primarily interested in the other person. It seeks to give instead of get. Love unselfishly seeks the highest good for the other person.

Lastly, infatuation weakened by time and separation where real love is strengthened by time and separation. This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the contrary, there is great pain in separation if you are truly in love.

Now, on the other part let us define what is LOVE?

Understanding what really is infatuation, now lets discuss the true meaning of LOVE.

If you read the Bible, it gives you the correct definitition of love. A compilation of all that you can think of or define of this word LOVE.

1. Love is PATIENT

The word translated "patient" means to wait patiently for the fulfillment of expectations. Just like if a guy is having difficulty dating a girl and the girl does not want to come out of her shell, if the guy trully love her, he will not complain or blame her, you must look at the situation from the girl's point of view. Maybe she is having problems which prevented her from coming out. The guy must react to it with patience and understanding. Have you ever met someone you liked so much that you wanted to push the relationship and make it progress faster? Sure you have! Love, however is willing to give the relationship time to grow at a natural pace. It does not push but it is willing to wait for the relationship to grow at a rate that is satisfactory to both parties.

2. Love is KIND

Love seeks to encourage and build up on others. It respects the feelings and emotions of others. It finds its greatest satisfaction in making others happy, such that: Compliment one another, magnify the other's strength, listen to one another. Pay close atterntion to what each of you has to say and make each other feel that what each says is important, etc.

3. Love is not JEALOUS

Jealousy usually indicates an insecure and immature heart. Love wants the best for others, but jealousy is possessive. Jealous is possessive. Jealous is reflected in the childish statement: "if he/she is going to talk to him/her, t hen he can just forget about me!" Often, one person wants to totally possess the other and to restrict her relationships with others.

4. Love is NOT BRAG Love is not a windbag and is not anxious to impress. Often, a guy will brag to a girl, trying to impress her so that she will like him. A truly great person, however, does not need to exalt himself. Othes will exalt him. 5. Love is NOT ARROGANT Love is not conceited, boastful, cocky or stuck up. Love, instead is humble and has a servant attitude. His demeanor implies: " You ought to be thankful that somebody is neat as me is dating you." Of course this is not love.

6. Love ALWAYS COVERS

This word cover means to pass over in silence, to keep confidential. Love is patient with faults of others. It doesn't criticize or broadcast to the world the faults of others. Love is present even when it knows the other is not perfect.

7. Love alwats PERSEVERSE Love always stands its ground and holds out. It will outlast anything. It will even love on the face of unreturned love. Real love will last through all sorts of trials, tribulations and stresses.

8. Love is NOT PROVOKED

This means that love has a long fuse. It does not become irritated and angry. It is not easily offended. Love does not seek its own. This is the heart of love. Love is other-centered not self-centered. Love says: "I love you, I want to give you." Sefishness says: "I love you, I want you."

9. Love does NOT ACT UNBECOMINGLY This means that love does not behave disgracefully, dishonorably, indecently. It does not embarrass others by its actions. It is characterized by tact and sensitivity. This also means that love should have good manners. Be sure to do little things like opening doors for your girl or offering her your arm when you walk together.

10. Love is FORGIVING

Lastly, this is a must for a succesful love story. If a guy is not willing to forgive and forger when his girlfriend is only an hour late, he is not exhibiting love. Love does't hold grudges when it hasd been wronged. It doen't remain resentful.

From the above definitions and arguments about love and infatuation. There is a great difference between the two. And using these definitions, you can certainly know that what you feel is LOVE or its just an INFATUATION.

(this article is for all the boys and girls who is inlove right there, may it be INFATUATION or REAL LOVE!)